Rough Patch, or Something Deeper? A Pulse Check for Relational Connection
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Most couples at some point (or a few scattered along the way) find themselves asking: “Are we okay? Or is something deeper going on?” Maybe it bubbles up quietly after a tense conversation, or lingers in the background as things feel more distant than usual. In long-term relationships, disconnection isn’t always cause for panic. But left unspoken, even subtle disconnection can quietly erode the sense of safety, trust, and intimacy we rely on in our most intimate relationships.
A missed bid for connection, conversations that trail off, misunderstandings that continue to escalate, or a growing silence that neither partner knows how to bridge. Over time, we may find ourselves sharing a home and a routine, but feeling the heaviness of emotional disconnect. It’s not always easy to name, but that quiet drift matters – sometimes requiring a quick tune up, other times signaling ‘attention needed’ for deeper action.
It’s important to pay attention to these early signals - not because they mean something is broken, but because they offer a chance to assertively communicate by 1) naming it, and 2) collaborating together to course-correct. Disconnection often shows up in the small moments: when conversations feel shallow, affection drops off, or conflict feels caught in a loop we can’t get out of.
The good news? Relational disconnection is often repairable. With awareness, curiosity, and the right support, partners can learn how to engage, re-attune, and rebuild connection from exactly where they are.
If you're feeling a little off in your relationship, or just curious about where things stand , I've put together something that can help: "We’re Okay...Right? A Pulse Check for Relationships”. It’s a short, relational quiz designed to help explore how connected we feel in our current relationship - and where there might be room to strengthen that connection (with suggestions and tips from a licensed couple’s counselor).
Why a Relationship Check-In Matters
Disconnection can happen in any relationship. That doesn’t mean the relationship is doomed - it might just be a season of emotional distance that needs more care, attention, or support. When we take time to notice the patterns, the misalignments, or the needs we haven’t named, we give ourselves a chance to re-align - before distance becomes disrepair.
This quiz focuses on three essential areas that can impact how close or distant we feel in our relationships:
Communication Patterns
Boundaries & Emotional Safety
Unmet Needs & Connection Gaps
It takes just a few minutes to complete, and your results point to one of four connection profiles that reflect where you and your partner may be right now.
The Four Relationship Connection Types
Each quiz result is paired with a short insight and a tailored reconnection practice. Here’s a glimpse of what you might discover:
Emotionally In Sync, with Room to Grow:
You feel connected and able to communicate well, but may benefit from small tune-ups or new ways to stay attuned as life evolves.Strong Foundation, Stressed Walls:
Your connection is solid, but outside stressors may be making it harder to feel like a team. You may be coping side-by-side instead of together.Unspoken Needs Are Speaking Loudly:
Emotional needs or boundaries may be unexpressed, leading to tension, withdrawal, or a lack of clarity around what each of you is really carrying.Time for a Relationship Reset:
The distance may feel wide right now, but that doesn’t mean reconnection is out of reach. Small, intentional efforts can help rebuild trust and emotional safety.
Your Personalized Reconnection Guide
Each result comes with a direct link to a free PDF guide: "Pathways to Reconnect".
It includes:
Thoughtfully designed activities you can try right away.
Practical rituals that help build emotional safety and presence.
A gentle roadmap for starting (or restarting) meaningful connection.
Take the quiz below and get results along with the PDF guide:
A Note About Connection
We don’t need to be in crisis to reflect on our relationships. In fact, most couple’s counselors or marriage therapists would say let’s check the temp and reach out before we’re at the boiling point. Checking in is not a sign that something’s wrong - it’s a sign we give a shit about something that likely, a lot of our daily time and energy is going into. It’s meaningful to us. If your results bring up more questions than answers, that’s okay. Therapy is a space where we can explore those questions together. We’re trained to help couples untangle communication breakdowns, rebuild emotional safety, set healthy boundaries, and reconnect with each other in a way that feels grounded and creates meaningful change. Whether you’re seeking clarity, reconnection, or repair, we’re ready to help.
Reconnection is possible. Let’s create change that sticks.
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